It turned out one box was only doing 10Mb/s. A switch of nic sorted that and we'll see how it goes. I think this box gaming (which sends tiny packets continuously) may have been my problem.
Thetereal was confusing to put it mildy. Here's a chunk. Any comment? My linux box is 192.168.1.33; modem is 192.168.1.1 (dhcp server side) and 194.125.98.238 from the ether(under pppoe). BTW,
http://73.32.78.211 times out here in a browser :-o
5.193491 192.168.1.33 -> 72.32.78.211 ICMP Destination unreachable (Host administratively prohibited)
5.198044 72.32.78.211 -> 192.168.1.33 TCP [TCP segment of a reassembled PDU]
5.198082 192.168.1.33 -> 72.32.78.211 ICMP Destination unreachable (Host administratively prohibited)
16.098542 72.32.78.211 -> 192.168.1.33 TCP [TCP Retransmission] [TCP segment of a reassembled PDU]
16.098599 192.168.1.33 -> 72.32.78.211 ICMP Destination unreachable (Host administratively prohibited)
30.000931 192.168.1.1 -> 192.168.1.255 RIPv2 Response
30.211723 192.168.1.33 -> 194.125.2.240 DNS Standard query AAAA
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30.241076 194.125.2.240 -> 192.168.1.33 DNS Standard query response CNAME geocities.com
30.241645 192.168.1.33 -> 194.125.2.240 DNS Standard query A
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30.257597 194.125.2.240 -> 192.168.1.33 DNS Standard query response CNAME geocities.com A 66.218.77.68
30.265146 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.68 TCP 33091 > http [SYN] Seq=0 Len=0 MSS=1460 TSV=4115241 TSER=0 WS=2
30.449746 66.218.77.68 -> 192.168.1.33 TCP http > 33091 [SYN, ACK] Seq=0 Ack=1 Win=65535 Len=0 MSS=1400 WS=1 TSV=583421721 TSER=4115241
30.449829 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.68 TCP 33091 > http [ACK] Seq=1 Ack=1 Win=5840 Len=0 TSV=4115425 TSER=583421721
30.450208 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.68 HTTP GET / HTTP/1.1
30.654795 66.218.77.68 -> 192.168.1.33 HTTP HTTP/1.1 301 Moved Permanently (text/html)
30.654857 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.68 TCP 33091 > http [ACK] Seq=472 Ack=394 Win=6912 Len=0 TSV=4115630 TSER=583421742
30.655151 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.68 TCP 33091 > http [FIN, ACK] Seq=472 Ack=394 Win=6912 Len=0 TSV=4115631 TSER=583421742
30.655599 66.218.77.68 -> 192.168.1.33 TCP http > 33091 [FIN, ACK] Seq=394 Ack=472 Win=66624 Len=0 TSV=583421742 TSER=4115426
30.655636 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.68 TCP 33091 > http [ACK] Seq=473 Ack=395 Win=6912 Len=0 TSV=4115631 TSER=583421742
30.659087 192.168.1.33 -> 194.125.2.240 DNS Standard query AAAA geocities.yahoo.com
30.696878 194.125.2.240 -> 192.168.1.33 DNS Standard query response CNAME home1.geo.vip.scd.yahoo.com
30.697256 192.168.1.33 -> 194.125.2.240 DNS Standard query A geocities.yahoo.com
30.712667 194.125.2.240 -> 192.168.1.33 DNS Standard query response CNAME home1.geo.vip.scd.yahoo.com A 66.218.77.78
30.712986 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.78 TCP 33092 > http [SYN] Seq=0 Len=0 MSS=1460 TSV=4115689 TSER=0 WS=2
30.889303 66.218.77.78 -> 192.168.1.33 TCP http > 33092 [SYN, ACK] Seq=0 Ack=1 Win=65535 Len=0 MSS=1400 WS=1 TSV=409604381 TSER=4115689
30.889377 192.168.1.33 -> 66.218.77.78 TCP 33092 > http [ACK] Seq=1 Ack=1 Win=5840 Len=0 TSV=4115865 TSER=409604381